How to Find Your Twin Flame (Quickly)

The biggest mistake I see when asking how to find your twin flame is to immediately start looking for your twin on dating apps or trying to find these chance encounters reaching for the same book at the same time.

The process to find your twin flame can seem counter-intuitive but is not about searching out that special someone. Twin flames are constantly calling to each other and sometimes you just have to learn to get out of your own way and let it happen.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t be getting out there and you might meet your twin flame on a dating app, but we need to make sure you’re in the right mindset to further your journey. Understanding how this connection works can be the difference between finding them quickly and spending years wasting time you could have had together.

Note: If you’re trying to find your twin flame I’m going to assume you don’t already know who they are. If you do know who your twin flame is I suggest checking out my guide on how to attract your twin flame instead.

Starting to Find Your Twin Flame

Something brings people to the journey. Something has led to you reading this.

It might be a feeling that something is missing in your life, a friend might have brought it to your attention or it might be a complete accident.

The first thing you should do is make sure you know what a twin flame is. You’ll hear many different twisted definitions floating around online (and plenty of people who love to argue about it) but when you boil it right down – your twin is the other part of your soul.

It’s not about finding the perfect relationship – that’s more of a byproduct. It’s about finding the other part of yourself. Technically, finding your twin flame really means finding yourself.

The journey toward union starts there. Drop the focus on the external, drop the expectations you have about what you should be doing or experiencing. Bring the focus internally and watch what happens.

Your Twin is Already Trying to Find You

It doesn’t matter whether you (or your twin) have heard the term twin flame before. Long before either of you have any idea of what is going on in the 3D you’re both calling to each other through the twin flame telepathic connection.

This connection is used for a lot of things but before either of you ever even meet it’s hard at work. It doesn’t matter what stage you’re at, how unlikely you are to meet or if you’re on opposite sides of the world. You are both two halves of the same part.

However, and this is very important, just because they’re looking for you doesn’t mean you should just sit back and wait for it to happen. That brings us to the actual how to find your twin flame.

Actively Finding Your Twin Flame

Finding Your Twin Flame

Whether you have no idea who your twin flame is or you already know them and you’re in separation the answer is always the same. There’s no need to worry if you haven’t met them yet, in fact, the pain of separation after meeting them can be so heartbreaking – you might have made the journey easier on yourself.

Working to actively find and attract your twin flame means actively improving yourself. This means improving yourself physically, mentally, spiritually and following your own goals. Become the person you would want to present yourself to the world as.

Even if you feel ready. If you’re proud of yourself and your achievements this is a good start but if you’re not in union with your twin there’s likely still work to do. So rather than falling into that trap of keeping the search external, let’s look at how to push your spiritual journey.

This is usually where we can find the ‘easy wins’ and push your journey onward.


There’s a reason I have a pack of guided meditations on the twin flame coaching. Meditation is often not what you think and can be one of the strongest tools to find your twin flame and prepare yourself for union, so you’re ready when you do meet.

I’ve covered twin flame meditation in more depth but even if you start using some generic meditation app like Headspace I promise you’ll see a push in the right direction.

It’s not an overnight solution. Not a magic switch. In only a few minutes a day, it can really push your journey onward.


Much like meditation, I’ve covered twin flame affirmations before (and the companion also has some guided affirmations).

Something you can do in 60 seconds a day that can further your journey. It’s that easy and incredibly powerful. However, I have a love/hate relationship with affirmations on the journey.

They can help you find your twin flame but they can’t be all you use. Think of them as a twin flame supplement. Something to use alongside everything else. I’ve certainly seen people start their day with affirmations and nothing else – you can’t expect the universe to do all the heavy lifting here.

Trust Your Intuition

The twin flame journey is confusing. Not only is it full of doubt, conflicting information and emotional turmoil – there are never any two journies exactly the same.

If you’ve read my story you’ll know I’ve been through it with my twin. I’ve made every mistake possible on the path but I’ve got there. I also receive thousands of stories from others going through their own journies and spend a lot (some would say too much) time around the twin flame community.

I still don’t like speaking in certainties. I rarely trust anyone that does. There’s just so much about this journey we don’t know so perhaps one of the biggest things you can do to find your twin flame is just to trust your intuition.

Sure, there are external signs which can help guide you (we’ll touch on that in a moment) but trust yourself here. Something has brought you to this page so you’re certainly on the road and perhaps your path forwards won’t look exactly as you expect.

Don’t do anything which doesn’t feel right to you. If you’re unsure at any point go back to my first suggestion – meditate. Listen to yourself. Allow your intuition to speak to you. Align yourself with your own true north and go from there.

Even if that conflicts with the advice I give here – my advice is always not to do anything which feels wrong to you.

External Signs

While trusting your internal intuition is always a priority – there’s also external guidance you can take.

I’ve seen a lot of different variations to this and there’s none that is necessarily better than another. It’s personal preference or maybe your journey happens to favor one over another. Common examples of external signs from the universe are:

The twin flame journey is not just a date that happens to go well. It’s a spiritual journey and a high-energy one at that. It’s going to cause weird things to happen. Sometimes these things will go unnoticed (at least not consciously noticed) by both you and your twin.

Sometimes they’ll make strange coincidences and patterns which will be trying to draw your attention towards something important.

Don’t Rush the Twin Flame Journey

However, you decide to move your journey forward. Whether you take my advice or think I’m full of nonsense. If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this it would be don’t rush the twin flame journey.

Learning how to find your twin flame is only the first step. You’ll need to prepare yourself for union, your twin will need to do the same and there are pitfalls you can fall into along the way. If you try and force something which just isn’t quite right you might end up wasting a lot of time with a false twin flame.

But you also shouldn’t just sit back and wait.

If you’re aware enough of the twin flame journey to be here then you have an opportunity most do not. Most people haven’t heard the term twin flame before. Most people don’t have one. Plenty of others do but they won’t reach union in this lifetime because they’ve fallen into one trap or another.

Don’t force it – but work on yourself. Get into the mindset of being the person who you would want to meet, advancing your spiritual journey and when the moment is right your twin flame will arrive. It might be sooner than you think.

Get Further Guidance

If you’d like some further guidance on finding your twin flame, let me know what you’re seeing so far on your journey. Is there a potential person? Are you seeing any of these external signs?

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